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Stephen Levine is a poet and teacher of guided meditation and healing
techniques that have found widespread application. For several years, Levine
has worked creatively to help thousands of people approach their own deaths
with equanimity, truth, and an open heart. Stephen Levine came to the Bodhi
tree in 1997 to present his book A Year to Live.
My
wife Ondrea and I have spent most of our careers
working with terminally ill patients. And we've come to realize that the
most growth occurs in a person's last year, during the most difficult time
of their whole lives. When you are ill, you are probably in pain, and battling
side effects from medication, poor sleep or malnutrition. Yet, miraculously,
the dying find peace under these conditions, when concentration is the most
difficult. Imagine if we had the same kind of commitment when our bodies
were strong, when our mind still had full capacity for concentration and
direction, when our hearts were really able to illuminate all the shadows
that obscure our hearts.
This book is about setting up the next year
as if it were your last. You may say, "But wouldn't I be tricking my
mind into thinking it's supposed to die?" No. The process does not
feed into some subtle, sublimated suicidal tendency. In fact, we have seen
that kind of tendency completely evaporate, because all this talk about
death is essentially an excuse for us to face life. When you've got a year
to live, life becomes very precious. It strengthens your intention to live
in a different way. What a different life you would have if every year was
as important as your last. What a different death you would have. Not only
for you, but for all the people attending your death-bed.
I have seen deaths where everyone was healed,
including the deceased. I don't mean cured, I mean healed. It takes courage.
We're lazy and we trick ourselves into thinking that God will protect us,
but that doesn't work. As Buddha said: "Our salvation is up to ourselves."
The work that we have to do to free ourselves has to be done now.
Let's say you are told you have only one
year left. And you write down all the reasons why you want to live. Call
this Column A. On another sheet of paper, you write down your more surprising
reactions to the fateful news. Some satisfaction with dying arises. That's
Column B. It represents our world-weariness, our disappointments, our distrust,
our frustration. One reason you may want to live is because you'd like to
see the 40,000 starving children fed. That's Column A. In Column B, those
40,000 children dying each day is not enough to keep you alive. Column B's
goal is that you die, so that you no longer have to experience aspects of
the world that you find abhorrent. But Column B must be addressed. And this
is why a year to live practice can be so significant. It impels you to address
your fears and disaffection with life, while you still have the energy to
do it. You can write those letters, finish that business or contribute to
those 40,000 children before its too late.
In
the book, we suggest you go back in a focused manner to every person and
event you've experienced, and consider forgiving and offering gratitude
to them. Even your beloved could still take a little forgiveness and lots
of gratitude. Some people afflicted horrors on you, yet you survived them.
Unfinished business is finished by forgiveness. If you accept others, including
their not accepting you, if you can touch their heart with your heart, something
is healed.
Gratitude is an extraordinary practice.
If you knew you had only a year to live, your priorities would straighten
out. Participating in gratitude amplifies your life, you find a livingness
that literally goes beyond death.
Audience:I can't relate to this. I'm into physical immortality.
Levine: Well, death is an illusion. In this process, we
use the spirit's shaking loose of the body as a way of focusing on the spirit
and healing the body. You're wondering whether the mind will buy into this,
that you'll make yourself die. If youve got cancer, you may worry
that this "year to live" process will make your cancer metastasize.
Well, this is not what we see amongst people. When people are already seriously
ill, the more they are in touch with their living immortality, the easier
and more heartfelt their time of death.
The denial of death is fascinating. Psychologicailly,
it is a hindrance to being present, to communication, even to finishing
business, because the mind says, "I'll do it later." In this way,
denial of death is, in fact, denial of life. However, your denial of death
is also a kind of wisdom. Though psychological emptiness translates as depression,
spiritual emptiness is really an incredible up.
We hear people express three regrets on
their death beds: First, they fret about unfinished business, or unresolved
relationships. Secondly, they regret not having found the work they wanted
to do, they regret having compromised, even if it was for success. Thirdly,
it's lifestyle: "I could have worked less, enjoyed my life more."
I suggest there's no need to die in a dishonorable manner. People too often
die feeling like failures for not paying their bills. Therefore, when people
actually do this "year to live" practice, they don't leave their
job and go to Acapulco with a bottle of tequila. In actuality, people change
jobs, but to recommit to their lives. They are also more attentive to their
kids, to their parents, and to their mates. The prospect of death becomes
this fiercely polished mirror for our lives. Maybe you don't get that new
job, but you may discover what you really want to do, and you've got decades
ahead of you. What a wonderful time to find it out now, instead of on your
death bed.
When
Ondrea and I started this, we called it a "New Year's Resolution Without
Parallel." The last day of the year would be the last day of our lives.
Around June, I realized, "Gee, I'm more than six months into this process
which means more life has elapsed than remains!" My mind turned to
me like a dishonest car salesman and said, "Oh no! You didn't start
writing til right after Valentine's Day. You have six extra weeks."
Even with the game, it bargained for more time.
Audience I'll get my degree in a year. If I do this practice,
wouldn't my studies become redundant?
Levine: No. Why change a commitment you feel is important?
That's a vow, that's good heart stuff. If you knew the end of year exam
was to be death, you might pay more attention. It isn't always necessary
to change externally. You can do the same thing, but you'll find you do
it in a brand new way.
Audience What about committing suicide at the end of a year?
Like the Heaven's Gate People?
Levine: The great Zen Master, Dojin, said karma does not
come from killing yourself, but by the way you kill yourself. Why should
the intention behind suicide and what it brings be any different than the
intention behind any other act? The trouble is, when most people kill themselves,
they do it in such a sloppy manner that they cause pain to others. Indeed,
a lot of suicide attempts are intended to cause pain to someone else. You
may think that people kill themselves because they have no will to live.
No. The stronger your will to live, the stronger the potential for killing
yourself. The stronger your will to live, the more reactive your disappointment
in your experience. As for the Heaven's Gate suicides, I feel they were
a waste of concentration. They had this wonderful commitment and really
wanted higher states of consciousness. So, imagine if they had taken that
energy and used it for the benefit of all sentient beings. Imagine how wonderful
that might have been.
If people were allowed to kill themselves,
they'd live longer and they might even heal, because Column B is in straight-on
conspiracy with illness. Column B has no interest in your getting well.
The option of getting out, volitionally, actually allows you to stay in
longer. Many people die at three or four in the morning, because it's the
most lonely time. Imagine if they thought, "If I still feel this way
at 6:00, I'll take a pill." We've seen so many sick people get their
pills ready, then they didn't go through with it. And for the time that
remained, the quality of their life improved. Everybody can hang in just
this much. That's spiritual practice. Being present for this moment.
Death is not the worse thing; the worst
thing is unmitigated suffering or the closed heart. It is not death, but
lack of control that we fear. I don't think anyone would have taken birth
if they hadn't been absolutely assured before hand that if the going got
too tough they could get out. When a person's at the end of their physical
rope, it is not our job to judge them. This Judeo-Christian idea that we're
punished for killing ourselves . . . if you feel that God tortures the tortured,
that's not a God who loves. Taking away a person's ability to kill themselves
is the highest form of fascism. What right do we have to force another person
to stay in unmitigated suffering?
Ram Dass had a cerebral hemorrhage earlier
this year. The right side of his body was paralyzed. He and I have this
old long-standing thing: If either of us are caught with our hearts closed
or we're angry, frightened or in physical discomfort, one will say to the
other, "Is there anything in this moment that keeps you from being
enlightened?" Whenever we say that to each other, we soften our bellies,
and we let go of our holding. I asked him this after his hemorrhage, and
he replied, "Yes. My preoccupation with it." That Zen clarity.
We don't depend upon the body for our existence, but the body depends on
us. After all, when we leave, it's only trash.
Audience I know that life and death is a cycle - it's part
of the process. But how do we impart this deeper understandings to our growing
children?
Beyond the physical safety level, it's very
tricky to bring up children thinking you know what's best for them. Krishnamurti
said, "Don't teach your children to be saints." Rather, teach
them to be kind and pay attention. If they see compassion from you, it's
very encouraging to them.
The term "opening the heart" is
in fact a misnomer, because the heart is always open. It's just obscured,
like the sun is obscured by a cloud or a curtain. No one's heart is open
all the time, I've seen the Dalai Lama snicker! But meditation unobscures
it. And that's what we must do.
The place of control, and therefore, our
powerlessness is in the belly. We need our life energy to heal, but we too
often use it to suppress the way we look or the way we feel or the way we
want to live, and this hardens the belly. Let go of the muscles holding,
let yourself soften. To let go of hard belly is to let go of suppression
- I can come back to this a hundred times a day, and I've practiced this
technique for forty years. A single thought will tighten it. Desire tightens
it. Fear tightens it. Judgment tightens it. The harder it is, the smaller
we are.
I know a dancer who had bad heart problems.
He said the way he wanted to die was to run across the room and jump up
into the air and his body would fall, but he'd just keep on going. Well,
this fellow is still alive and he's had several attacks. What's kept him
from dying is that he keeps taking the sacred heart into his chest. He breathes
it in and breathes it out. Some months ago, this man had another stroke
and when he came back to consciousness, he said, "It was amazing. When
I was way out there, Sai Baba came to me and said, Love is Everything."
Love is everything. One of the things that
we saw during this year to live practice, is that to come back and practice
a religion or even a spiritual practice is really absurd. When you see the
absolute emptiness of things, you really come back. Love is the only rational
act of a lifetime. Everything else has got something else in mind.
And
for those of you who think that we create our own illness, let me tell you
that some cancers develop in the womb. Do you think that a child had bad
thoughts in the womb? No. I used to pray that at least the pain would be
taken away from these poor children I counseled, until I had the experience
one day of a hand coming out and stopping me. Something said: "You
just don't know enough to make that prayer. You're second guessing God."
The only prayer that's appropriate, is "May you get the most out of
this possible." When that's the attitude, it changes the game.
As for the idea in this book of preparing
for death, you know, every religion and every belief system tells you to
prepare for death. Remember, preparing for death is a spiritual odyssey.
Even Socrates, who was probably an atheist in our sense of the term - amongst
his last words were, "Prepare for Death."
A partial list of Stephen Levine’s books are:
- Embracing the Beloved co-authored by Ondrea Levine
- Gradual Awakening (1989)
- Guided Meditations (1991)
- Healing into Life and Death (1989)
- Meetings at the Edge (1989)
- Turning Toward the Mystery (2003)
- Unattended Sorrow (2005)
- Who Dies? (1989)
- A Year to Live (1997)
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A Year to Live:
How to Live this Year
as if It Were Your Last
By Stephen Levine
$11.00 175 pp. Paperback ISBN 0609801945. Crown Publishers, Inc.
In A Year to Live,
Stephen Levine, author of the acclaimed book
Who Dies?, teaches us how to live each moment, each hour, each day mindfully -
as if it were all that was left. On his deathbed, Socrates exhorted his
followers to practice dying as the highest form of wisdom. Levine decided to
live this way himself for a whole year, and now he shares with us how such
immediacy radically changes our view of the world and forces us to examine
priorities. Most of us go to extraordinary lengths to ignore, laugh off, or deny
the fact that we are going to die, but preparing for death is one of the most
rational and rewarding acts of a lifetime. It is an exercise that gives us the
opportunity to deal with unfinished business and enter into a new and vibrant
relationship with life. Levine provides us with a year-long program of intensely
practical strategies and powerful guided meditations to help with this work, so
that whenever the ultimate moment does arrive for each of us, we will not feel
that it has come to soon.
"The day I realized it wasn’t my mind or my pain, but just the nature of
the mind and pain itself, was an initiation that changed my relationship to pain
forever. When it’s "the" pain, it has the whole universe to float in, when
it’s "my" pain, I’m standing alone in it." - Stephen Levine
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