Disentangle : When You’ve Lost Your Self in Someone Else

A solution-oriented approach to identifying and healing from over-involvement or ‘entanglement’ in relationships with others. Its format combines psychoeducation, personal anecdotes, anonymous clinical case vignettes, and skills-building exercises.

The author presents a practical, easy-to-follow method for changing the course of one’s relationships. Anyone who has struggled with balancing their own needs and desires with those of the ‘other’ person will appreciate and benefit from the easy-to-implement suggestions in this book. 

Emotional over-involvement in relationships can throw even otherwise well-functioning people out of balance—thoughts become focused on the other person in ways that are unhealthy for both the individual and the relationship—commonly leading to feelings of anxiety, agitation, helplessness, depression, anger, and even resentment. Disentangle provides a detailed description of ways to turn this self-destructive cycle around, and includes self-assessments and experiential exercises designed to address essential aspects of self-awareness, distortions in thinking, communication style and tools, and spirituality.

‘Disentangling’ is the process of creating enough emotional space between oneself and another person in order to better see the realities of any relationship and make healthier conscious decisions about it.